Thursday, August 11,
2016
As I write this morning it is still
dark; it has rained through the night, just as it did last year on this day. Last year I awoke to find that our little dog
Wellie’s hind legs had become paralyzed.
Shortly after that I got the call from my brother Thom that our Dad had
graduated to the Church Triumphant.
When big things happen in your life,
especially on the same day, you remember that day clearly, and with an intensity
of emotion. I don’t know how more oddly-connected
two events could be – the death of my father joined in my memory to a dog’s
health issue. But there are some
similarities.
There is pain
While our vet assured us our little
fur-beast feels no pain, the look of bewilderment on his little face that
morning, and the growing sense of loss was unmistakable. Perhaps the harsh reality of seeing a little
animal suffer helped prepare my heart for what was to come just moments later,
when I would hear the words that Dad had passed.
There is also patience
My father was not a patient man. He could get excited about the prospect of
getting something accomplished in an intense way that was so focused all else
had to be put on-hold. You could see it
in his eyes, and it always meant you could get on board or you could stay
behind! Sometimes it took great patience
just to be around my Dad; navigating his energetic ways caused patience to develop
in those who knew him well.
Our little Wellie’s paralyzed legs
have forced him to slow down. And I have
had to re-learn patience as I help him up and down stairs, and do the mundane
tasks that were taken for granted before.
There is perseverance
Wellie is not a little dog to be
denied! When it is supper time he lets
you know with that stare and incessant barking, right in your face! He maintains his “space” and will not be
pushed aside. He still plays, loves and
licks you on the ear lobe when you pick him up.
He knows the family routines and is always willing to lead the pack when
it’s time to go, dragging his little back legs behind. These are important issues to a dog.
My Dad also paid attention to the
important things. He loved my Mother and
his sons fiercely and faithfully. He
loved and served God with whatever lot God placed in his hands. Even in his nineties Dad could be seen in the
halls of the local nursing homes limping along with his cane, visiting the “old
people” (as he called them), bringing the joke-of-the-day and a smile
to each room.
My father was a man of perseverance,
overcoming his depression-shortened education with a lifelong thirst for
learning. He would make the most of his
annual vacation time by visiting historic sites in the United States.
Perhaps what I will remember most is Dad’s
integrity, a character strength which balanced-out his impatience and
perseverance. Somehow this ordinary man had
an extraordinary impact on those with whom he shared this life.
One story my Mother told me was how
Dad worked his way up to foreman’s assistant at the aviation plant during World
War II. He supervised a dozen
workers. After the war the need for
planes eased up, and with it came layoffs.
One day the boss came to him with the list of people Dad would have to
give notice of termination. One of those
men had a large family, and had been a faithful employee for years. My Father tried to reason with the boss that
the man shouldn’t be on the list.
Another employee, a young girl had only recently been hired; it was only
right that she be let go. She was living
with her parents and the economic hardship would be less than someone with so
many depending on his paycheck. The boss
refused; Mom said they later learned it was because he was pursuing her romantically. When Dad found this out he refused to fire
the man with the family. The boss said, you
either put his name back on that list, or put your own on there in his place. And that is exactly what he did!
At times I have been faced with
ethical decisions, and it is my Dad’s integrity, placing faithful commitment to
doing what’s right above career, money or comfort, which
helped build in me a moral compass based upon kingdom principles. Whatever sense of character I possess, my
Father was a Godly teacher that led me to the well.
For You Today
Thanks,Dad!
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road today…have
a blessed day!
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