Showing posts with label Rumor. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Rumor. Show all posts

Monday, November 7, 2016

Truth Spoken Here

Monday, November 7, 2016
Now these are the gifts Christ gave to the church:  the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, and the pastors and teachers.  Their responsibility is to equip God’s people to do his work and build up the church, the body of Christ.  This will continue until we all come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God’s Son that we will be mature in the Lord, measuring up to the full and complete standard of Christ.  Then we will no longer be immature like children.  We won’t be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teaching.  We will not be influenced when people try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth.  Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.  He makes the whole body fit together perfectly.  As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.  Ephesians 4:11-16(NLT)
Paul lists the church’s leader titles and their function, which is to build-up the body of Christ to be mature in the Lord.  This unveils the purpose of the church, to be a mature, Godly, loving, and healthy influence in the world, with this result:  a world turned to God’s purposes.  You can’t do that without truth in every area of life, words, deeds, and motives!  Most of us find that a tall order; most of us fall pretty far short of the goal. 
There was once a church that had fallen on hard times.  It was a large, growing church in the 1950’s and 60’s.  Several misunderstandings, followed by church fights and people leaving had decimated the church’s witness and ministry.  They were down to trying to hold the doors open and hang-on.
They brought in a seasoned, but young minister whose ideas and energy helped revitalize and re-focus the small, aging group.  Within a few years their numbers had grown, and it seemed they were headed for better days ahead.
But a member became somewhat slighted by the pianist’s friendship with another member, and suggested to a friend that it was hard to sit in a church where the minister would approve of his staff person being so insensitive.  The friend told another friend, and word got back to the church secretary.  The secretary knew this was the kind of thing that had caused trouble before in this church, so she called the offended member and tried to “protect” the pastor by convincing her to just forgive the minister and the pianist. 
This led the member to call her friend and share how it was just awful that the secretary knew all about the pastor’s mean-spirited ways.  She didn’t want to, but she couldn’t help adding how she suspected the pastor and the secretary seemed to spend too many hours together.  By that afternoon the rumor mill had a full-blown theory that the pastor and his secretary were leaving for Spain to live together in a commune.
A few months later that church was looking for a new pastor.
Stories like this would be fodder for trashy novels if it were not for the fact that they are all too often based in fact, and are certainly among the enemy’s chief means of destroying the witness and ministry of many a hornet’s nest that used to pass for a church.
What can be done to head off that kind of horror story?
Speak the truth.
Speak the truth in a Godly, loving way.
Make truth your motive no matter how you feel.
Speak the truth with everything you do, say and think.
It’s that important.

For You Today

Before you speak, before you judge, and before you act, run it through the Apostle Paul’s filter…is this the loving truth I will speak?
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road…have a blessed day!
NOTES

[i] Title image: Alfred Guillou [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Friday, August 26, 2016

Rumor Mill

                                                                                                 Friday, August 26, 2016
Rumors are dainty morsels that sink deep into one’s heart.   Proverbs 18:8(NLT)
It was so long ago when I read words that stung, instructed, appalled, and changed me.  The words were by Alan Redpath, a pastor and author who wrote, I once formed a mutual encouragement fellowship at a time of stress in one of my pastorates.  The members subscribed to a simple formula applied before speaking of any person or subject that was perhaps controversial.

T – Is it TRUE?
H – Is it HELPFUL?
I – Is it INSPIRING?
N – Is it NECESSARY?
K – Is it KIND?[ii]

The meaning, of course, centers on the Biblical criteria for passing information along about someone who is not present to hear the words.

I wish I could play the tapes of all my life’s conversations in an instant, and find that I have never been guilty of gossip.  I know that’s not possible.  I am as guilty as any of you.  But there is one thing I can do about gossip; I can refuse to be part of it in the future.  I can squash it whenever it comes my way. 

I can ask God to help me tame my tongue.  I am one who needs that help.

What do you do when someone is trying to unload some gossip in your direction?  Bill Gothard suggests that we should ask five questions before listening to a carrier of an evil report:

     1.     What is your reason for telling me?  Widening the circle of gossip only compounds the problem.  

     2.     Where did you get your information?  Refusal to identify the source of information is a sure sign of an evil report.   

     3.     Have you gone to those directly involved?  Spirituality is not measured by how well we expose an offender but by how effectively we restore an offender.  

     4.     Have you personally checked out all of the facts?  Even facts become distorted when not balanced with other facts or when given with negative motives.  

     5.     Can I quote you if I check this out?

On this last, and most important question, when a person is not willing to have his or her words brought into solving the problem…chances are about 100% they really don’t want to help the person – they really just want to gossip.  They’ve got what the Proverb writer called a dainty morsel sunk deep into their heart, and they just can’t wait to feel the power rush of blabbing it all over town.

For You Today

If you’ve found yourself at times tempted with spreading rumors and gossip, here’s a good way to begin the day, so you can begin to break the habit, pray like this:

Lord, help me guard my tongue this one day;
Help me to bless others with what I say, not curse;
Lord, make me an instrument of peace,
not one who separates brothers and close friends with what I say.
Lord, help me tame my tongue!

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road…have a blessed day!

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NOTES


[i] Title Image:  By Wayne Short [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons
[ii] David L. Olford, ed., A Passion For Preaching, p. 159-160.