Showing posts with label Projection. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Projection. Show all posts

Monday, January 3, 2022

The DOG...in ME

 

Monday, January 3, 2022

When Job prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes.  In fact, the Lord gave him twice as much as before!  Then all his brothers, sisters, and former friends came and feasted with him in his home.  And they consoled him and comforted him because of all the trials the Lord had brought against him. And each of them brought him a gift of money and a gold ring.  Job 42:10-11

I recently read a version of a story that I’ve read (and experienced) many times.  The storyline goes like this:  Two dogs enter a room.  Later, one emerges growling like a wounded wolf, the other smiling like a contented puppy.  The question that sets-up the punch line is:  What, in the same room, could make one dog happy and another hopping mad?  Of course the punch line is…MIRRORS!  A dog may not have the sentient awareness to know he is looking at his own image, but he has the built-in radar to understand the danger or welcome signs he’s seeing.

It’s a short leap from a dog story to my story.  In a room full of mirrors that reflect my emotional state, political views, hurts, fears, joys, and all the other stuff that make up this dog called Russell, I’m going to bump into the real me.  And no matter what I may think of the critter I behold; he is what he is. 

The United States has, besides Russell, 332,915,072 others who have that same peculiarity…what we see in a mirror may make us mad or glad; it all depends on what we brought to the mirror.

Job was no different than Russell, or you, or any of the other 7.9 billion human critters on planet earth, past and present.  Job’s experience was pleasant at first.  He was rich, respected, and led a good life.  Looking in the mirror would not have been difficult.  Then it changed…hero became zero in an afternoon.  His family, riches, and comfort zone were taken down like a house of cards in a windstorm.  His “friends” finished the task with 40 chapters of telling him it was his own fault.

The end of Job’s life was better (by far) than the tale of woe.  But it’s been puzzling theologians, skeptics, and scoffers for as long as humans have breathed.  Why is it so that some dogs have so much to smile about, and others growl?  Job’s answer is not about what happens TO you, but how you respond to what has happened.  Notice that the Scripture tells us what Job did…he prayed for his friends.  The group that sat with Job, poking their fingers on Job’s sore spots, accusing him of some secret sins that brought the world of God’s judgment down on him…that’s the crew Job prayed God would forgive…and bless!

Did that sound familiar?  You may have heard it on a Sunday, or read it in the life of someone else who was in on the conversation with Job:

“You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy.   But I say, love your enemies!  Pray for those who persecute you In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven.  For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike.  If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much.  Matthew 5:43-46

Jesus told his listeners (that’s US if we will hear) to do a tough thing; he told them to pray for those who persecute you…love them.  But who can do that?  I’m glad you asked; it’s only the dog who brings a smile to the mirror.  All the others will rip apart whatever’s in front of them…and be angry at the entire world for being so violent and harsh.

For You Today

What we see in a mirror is what we bring to the table.  A good piece of advice is to make sure whatever we bring to the table is edible.

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!  

[1] Title and Other Images:  Pixabay.com and Pixabay.com   Unless noted, Scripture quoted from The New Living Translation©   

For other posts on this text see When Job Got it Right and Job's Story - From Hero to Zero (and back)






 

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Anger On the Wall

Tuesday, July 12, 2016
People ruin their lives by their own foolishness and then are angry at the Lord.   Proverbs 19:3(NLT) 
This is the message you have heard from the beginning:  We should love one another.  We must not be like Cain, who belonged to the evil one and killed his brother.  And why did he kill him?  Because Cain had been doing what was evil, and his brother had been doing what was righteous.  So don’t be surprised, dear brothers and sisters, if the world hates you.                                                    1 John 3:11-13(NLT)
Sixty years ago I remember my Dad setting up the projector in the living room.  We were going to have a home showing of our vacation memories.  The images contained on 35 millimeter slides were only about an inch square, but when illumined by a powerful light bulb, and magnified through the lens of the projector, they became our memories on the living room wall – 5 feet wide by 3 feet high.  High tech of the 1950’s!

(Don’t worry, kids – someday your kids and grandkids will make fun of your iPhone toys)

Projection!  When you do that with fond memories of crossing the West Virginia state line, or sliding down a river slew on a hot August day, the pictures bring a smile and remembrances of family bonding; it’s a good thing!

But when you project the sins you’ve managed to accumulate on your soul onto someone else, there’s liable to be murder afoot.  That is what happened to Cain; his inner life of hatred was projected onto his brother, and family mayhem was born.

I have often marveled at how hatred can be directed at anyone who is trying to follow in the steps of Jesus; but Jesus said just that to his disciples, and He said it plainly:

If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first.  John 15:18(NLT)

The rub in all of it is that we cannot understand how a loving intention to be help, healing, and care towards anyone can be rejected and called evil.  But it is not the help, or kindness people hate – it is how kindness magnifies their sinfulness.

A man once tried to lead a group within the church I was serving to have me fired as pastor.  In a rare moment of openness, he told me the reason was that he didn’t like me and hated the way I was so calm, assured, and knew where I was going.

(Wow!  Did he ever mis-read me…most of the time that calm look on my face is simply the empty stare of confusion trying to figure out which way to turn next, and wishing I could be somewhere alone where I can pray about it.  I may be the perfect analogy of a duck on the pond:  peacefully moving along the water’s surface, and underneath, where you can’t see, I’m paddling for all I’m worth)

Later, sadly, I realized this was projection; the man really didn’t like himself, and hated the way he treated his own family.  Somehow the only way he could feel better is if he could dismantle those around him who seemed to act in a loving way towards their family and doing right.  Unfortunately for that man, it was a little too much like Abel bringing an acceptable offering, and Cain being rejected. 

Nobody likes having his sins exposed!

For You Today

If you are tempted to judge someone else’s actions as phony or evil, take a few minutes to figure out why you’re angry.   You might be showing the slides on the living room wall of what’s inside of you.  Cut that other person some slack and love like Jesus loved.

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road today…have a blessed day!

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NOTES
[i] Title Image: By Achim Hering (Own work), via Wikimedia Commons