Showing posts with label Forgiving. Show all posts
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Monday, November 5, 2018

Revenge

Monday, November 5, 2018

Never pay back evil with more evil.  Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable.  Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.  Dear friends, never take revenge.  Leave that to the righteous anger of God.  For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord.  Instead, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them.  If they are thirsty, give them something to drink.  In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.”  Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.  Romans 12:17-21(NLT)

There are so many illustrations of how we humans despise the idea that our enemies get away with anything.  A bombing, or jet crashing into twin towers requires a response.  A murder requires lethal injection.  A bop on the head during recess requires running to the teacher and demanding justice!  We are hard-wired, it seems, to default with eye-for-an-eye revenge!  The first thing a recruit is taught when learning to be a good soldier is that the enemy must die!
Doing good to your enemies makes no sense at all, does it?  Yet, that is exactly what the Apostle Paul is saying.  And the idea wasn’t his at all!  In fact, when Paul was still Saul, the Pharisee, breathing out threats against the church, righteous revenge was his stock-in-trade; he worked tirelessly to inflict religious vengeance on the blasphemous Christians[2].  But when Jesus caught up with Saul on the Road to Damascus, the Lord not only changed his name to Paul, this newly commissioned apostle had his mind changed as well.  Jesus taught him what he’d taught on the Olivet hillside:

“You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy.  But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!  Matthew 5:43-44(NLT)

Now, that sounds altruistic, and even heroic, to walk on the high side of revenge; forgiving instead of killing – but does it work in the real world?  Well, that depends upon in which world you prefer to live – this world’s system of grab all you can and dispose of anyone in your path who is an obstacle … or the Kingdom of God.  The two worlds are polar opposites, and you cannot live with one foot in the Kingdom, and the other in the world.  Trying that will make you a Thanksgiving turkey wishbone!  You’ll get pulled from both sides, and the split will be painful.
So, let’s entertain a slightly different view of meeting the needs of hungry, thirsty enemies; a view that makes sense.  It has to do with what the apostle said about heaping burning coals of shame on someone’s head.  At first hearing it sounds like you’re calling fire down from heaven on someone’s head…get that sucker, God; it’s a real revenge party! 
But the meaning couldn’t be more opposite.  In Eastern culture of two millennia ago, the fires were always burning.  It was much easier to keep a fire going than get a new one started.  Smoldering coals were used to transfer fire from one place to start up a new blaze at another location. 
If, by chance, or laziness, your fire went out during the night, requesting some coals from your neighbor was the first thought.  Doing the neighborly thing you’d put some fiery coals in a pot, and your neighbor would carry them home, balancing the pot atop their head. 
So, Paul’s imagery contains goodness with a barb.  Fiery coals are a good thing when your fire has gone out.  But these fiery coals of shame turn it upside down; given to an enemy, a good deed becomes their shame in counting on the kindness of one to whom they have shown no kindness.  That kind of response changes hearts from revengeful to kindly. 
And changed hearts changes lives, communities, and whole cultures.  It can change the world!
For You Today
Burning coals; it only takes a spark to get a fire going.
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day.

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[2] See Acts 8, 9 & 22

Sunday, January 21, 2018

Thoughts for a New Year - Part 3: Leaning Forward

Now there were four men with leprosy sitting at the entrance of the city gates. “Why should we sit here waiting to die?” they asked each other.  “We will starve if we stay here, but with the famine in the city, we will starve if we go back there.  So we might as well go out and surrender to the Aramean army.  If they let us live, so much the better.  But if they kill us, we would have died anyway.”  So at twilight they set out for the camp of the Arameans.  But when they came to the edge of the camp, no one was there!  For the Lord had caused the Aramean army to hear the clatter of speeding chariots and the galloping of horses and the sounds of a great army approaching.  “The king of Israel has hired the Hittites and Egyptians to attack us!” they cried to one another.  So they panicked and ran into the night, abandoning their tents, horses, donkeys, and everything else, as they fled for their lives.  When the men with leprosy arrived at the edge of the camp, they went into one tent after another, eating and drinking wine; and they carried off silver and gold and clothing and hid it.  Finally, they said to each other, “This is not right.  This is a day of good news, and we aren’t sharing it with anyone!  If we wait until morning, some calamity will certainly fall upon us.  Come on, let’s go back and tell the people at the palace.”  So they went back to the city and told the gatekeepers what had happened.  “We went out to the Aramean camp,” they said, “and no one was there!  The horses and donkeys were tethered and the tents were all in order, but there wasn’t a single person around!”  Then the gatekeepers shouted the news to the people in the palace.  2 Kings 7:3-11(NLT)

Matthew Henry said, God’s….time to appear for his people is when their strength is gone.[1]  
The strength of the people of God was gone.  Years of siege by the Arameans had sapped every resource within the city walls.  Starvation was becoming the fate of God’s people in the northern kingdom of Samaria. Some of them were even resorting to cannibalism. 

In our text, four lepers were sitting at the gate.  They were unable to go into the city because of their disease and unwilling to leave, but living in abject fear as they waited for the enemy to strike; talk about a rock and a hard place!

The Lepers Needed a Miracle
There is little doubt that the lepers were in the worst possible position. They didn’t even have the city wall for protection between them and the Arameans.  They needed a miracle!  So did the people inside the city.

A miracle is what happens when the laws of nature are suspended by the Giver of those laws.  Many people would list some requirements for a miracle as: 
          ·       the need for a miracle to exist, or faith that God would provide, or a certain type of     prayer. 

I suggest to you that the only necessary ingredient for a miracle to take place is God.  For instance, the creation itself was a miracle.  When God said, let there be light there were no people, no needs, and, therefore no prayer or faith.  God was all there was in the beginning.  God is all that’s necessary!

The Lepers Got a Miracle
Many people read this story believe it was the faith of the lepers that provoked a miracle.  I say Not so!  The soldiers had fled the night before the lepers got there.  God had already done the miracle; the lepers were simply the first to witness the miracle.  Their courage was a God-given inspiration; they made a decision to do something different.
          ·       When Jesus changed the water into wine, no one saw the  transformation – they only knew it for sure when some wine was poured into the cups and delivered to the master of the feast. 
          ·       When Jesus, the dead man, got up and out of the tomb, no one witnessed the resurrection. He was gone before that stone rolled away! 

Miracles are always God’s business…and His alone!

There were actually two miracles on the day the lepers found the empty camp.  The first, certainly, was that the enemy soldiers had run away, literally, over nothing.  They heard things that went bump in the night…and there they go…all heels and elbows making for home as fast as feet will go!

The second miracle was the change in the lepers.  After plundering around for a while like a winner on one of those giveaway free shopping sprees in a toy store, the lepers began to think of all the hungry people back over the hill. These lepers had their hearts genuinely transformed.

Actually, the miracle is that they couldn’t wait to get back to tell the good news.  You might say, not so, preacher; those lepers had gotten such a blessing; they just had to tell everyone.  Folks, I might agree with you, except for the fact that I have known many, many people who have been saved by the good news of the cross, yet are in no hurry to tell anyone.  

In fact, many seem rather ashamed.  That’s because…

Miracles are Not Good News to Everyone
In the first part of this story Elisha had prophesied that the famine and siege were going to be over in one day – and the king’s messenger had said, surrrrre……I believe that!  If you recall, Elisha said, you will believe it…but you won’t like it…there will be no place at the table for someone with your unbelief. 

When the lepers got back and began to tell about how the siege and the accompanying shortage of food were over, the stampede was on; the people trampled the king’s messenger to death right at the city gate.  

The word of God is always completely accurate!
Is not my word like fire, says the LORD, and like a hammer that breaks a rock in pieces?  Jeremiah 23:29 (NRSV)

Now, that is the story – the question is:  what do we make of it?  And what do we do with it?  One thing is for certain, if the Bible is not speaking to us today, there is never a time when we ought to listen.  Bible truth never goes out of style. The Lord Himself even proclaimed, I am the Lord, I change not.[2]  He told us to acknowledge Him in all our ways,[3] not just back then…but always. 

Today…Let’s Hear (and do) God’s Word
The seed of this story is sown in every church, every family and every community.  From time to time – especially in hard times, economic frenzy, times of crisis – the seed of unbelief blossoms into a full-blown crop of strife.  This strife is the kind of contentiousness that nourishes division in the church and communities.  That, in turn, always keeps God’s people from their mission.

In many ways we are as the lepers and the city people of Samaria.  
          ·       Hard-heartedness and individualism can lay siege to the church and wall us in like prisoners.  
          ·       Anger and accusation can cannibalize a congregation; we wind-up fighting anyone and anything but the enemy. 

You have, perhaps, watched a movie or read a book with this story line.  A team faces a formidable opponent.  Then, division happens, tempers flare – that team is defeated before the game begins!  It can be that way – and often is – in the church!

Enter God’s Miracle:  the Least of These
The lepers are often seen as the least-powerful of society.  Yet here they represent those among us who have managed to stumble across the truth that the enemy is really powerless to defeat us, if we will but come out from behind the walls and go loot the camp.  

In the case of the Samaritans and Elisha, it took some trust to believe the enemy really was defeated.  They sent out a few chariots and drivers to check it out first.  Eventually all came to believe and enjoy the victory…except the unbeliever who got trampled in the stampede of faith. 

The real enemies of any church or community are anger and pride.  Spiritually-speaking, anger and pride are products of unbelief, and the father of that is Satan who revels in that atmosphere; but God is grieved whenever His children are at war with each other. 

Anger is like the enemy camped at our gates; it will hang around as long as there is no belief in a miracle called reconciliation.  As long as we have no trust in the table of reconciliation, we will be imprisoned with the cannibals.  We will devour each other until the doors eventually close. 

Will Rogers was a comedian who understood this need for reconciliation. Once he was talking on stage about people having constant squabbles – he compared them to two snakes he saw once as he was walking along.  They each had bitten down on the other’s tail end – they formed a perfect circle.  He said it was an odd sight, but odder still was the fact that in just a second, sure enough they had swallowed each other.  And that’s what anger and pride do!

By the way…Will Rogers wasn’t THAT smart, he got his image from Paul:

If, however, you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.  Galatians 5:15 (NRSV)

Decisions
We are still only a few weeks into this New Year.  Perhaps some of your resolutions are still surviving?  It’s not too late to add some peace resolutions to the list.  Here are three related leper-at-the-wall decisions that can help plunder the enemy’s camp in your life…


Get over your past….Learn to forgive 

It is so easy to become an expert complainer.  One man complained about the breakfast his wife cooked every morning.  If the eggs were scrambled, he complained he wanted fried; if they were fried, he wanted scrambled. His wife finally got frustrated and brought him one scrambled and one fried.  His complaint was, “you fried the wrong egg”. 

There is not a single person here today who doesn’t have some hurts, unmet expectations or disappointments.  Things which have happened cannot be undone…but ruminating on them like a cow chewing the cud, makes it worse.  

 Forgive what’s been done to you.


Get over your anger…Learn to let God help you forget 

Too often Christian folks allow others to rob their joy.  Whether it be the Interstate joy-robbers…the ones who cut you off, or some other insignificant irritant in life, we need to get a hold on what is truly important. 

A good question I use for judging whether something needs to be put in the sea of forgetfulness is this:  Is what’s bothering me going to matter in 100 years?   

In another church I once served there was a lady who was a McCoy.  She was a genuine descendant of the West Virginia McCoys; you might recall they had a slight falling out with the Hatfields?  She married into our family, became my step mother-in-law.  I asked Nanny once what the feud was all about.  She told me, I don’t think anybody remembers.  And it’s been over a hundred years!

Learn to forgive, AND forget, and then…


Get on with your mission…be God’s instrument of peace 

This may be the most important piece of the puzzle…just getting busy for God!  Without joy and a sense of forgiveness, it will not make a difference how right you are, or how diligently you work; God works through people who are ready to hear and follow His Spirit’s leading. You can’t do that when all your energy is taken up with fighting fights that don’t matter.

Getting on with the mission requires that most critical step in a journey of a thousand miles – the first one.  My daughter Carrie and her husband have two small prophets at their house –Jonah and Micah.  After church one week they went to a Japanese steak house. You know what the cooks do there, knife-juggling, vegetable throwing...it’s as much a show as it is a meal. 

Their chef was a master, flipping things up into his chef’s hat, blowing flames all over the grill, all the while engaging everyone around the seating area with chatter and jokes.  About 15 minutes into this delightful experience there was a slight pause, and in the dead silence, the kind that a 6 year-old is good at picking, Micah spoke for the crowd, would you just cook?  I’m starving!

The lepers outside the city gates knew their time was limited…and so is ours.  

If you’re having trouble getting past old anger, don’t be like an old cow wasting precious time on the past and what’s been done to you…just get on with the mission!  It’s better than dying at the gate!
Father, the past and all it holds is in your hands. 
People and actions which have disappointed us are also yours to judge. What you have placed in front of each of us is the mission…to step into it, live with it….and know that we are called to it. 
Thank you for the opportunity, the high privilege of walking with you and serving You by serving all peoples here and now. 
Grant us success in putting away the past which robs our joy, and putting away anger which would corrupt our present and destroy our future.  Lead us ever in the pathway of reconciliation with all people; both those like us, and those so different from us we cannot imagine how You’ll do it.
We pray in the Name of the Father, Because of the Son, Cooperating with the Spirit…Amen!

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Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Forgiving

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Wednesday, May 27, 2015
When you forgive this man, I forgive him, too.  And when I forgive whatever needs to be forgiven, I do so with Christ’s authority for your benefit, so that Satan will not outsmart us.  For we are familiar with his evil schemes.  2 Corinthians 2:10-11 (NLT)
The Gospel reading along with the Corinthian text in today’s lectionary is Jesus’ parable of the Prodigal Son. (Luke 15)  It’s an important connection; it’s all about forgiving.

The problems at Corinth were, in many ways, so desperate that Paul’s advice about handling the issues called for radical loving forgiveness.  His letter remains a constant reminder how church, family, and individual friendships cannot long endure without forgiving spirits.

Evidently some of the flock at Corinth had been harshly critical of Paul’s leadership, and the relationship between the apostle and the church there was severely strained.  A few letters and visits by Paul for holy conferencing had straightened-out the issues (seemingly); then there was a resurgence of the same problems, all over again! 

This certainly isn’t new in human relationships. 

Relationships have their patterns; some issues between people just go to sleep for a while, then resurface over and over again.  Infidelity in a marriage, a harsh criticism, broken promises, and so on, are “forgiven” but hardly “forgotten”.  It doesn’t take much to poke that hornet’s nest to bring the relationship to the boiling point.

And so it goes!  You may have experienced this; most of us know this first hand! 

Paul evidently wrote a severe letter to the elders at Corinth, warning them that if the ringleaders of this rebellion were not disciplined the church had little hope of surviving as a unified part of the body of Christ. 

Apparently those elders in charge got the message and somehow communicated it to those who were bad-mouthing Paul, and there was repentance, because Paul’s next communication (we have it as 2 Corinthians) has Paul’s personal stamp of approval and instructions for the church to receive back the offenders – to restore them to full fellowship.

I don’t know what you call that kind of discipline, but my kids used to call it a come to Jesus meeting. 

Now, the connection between Paul’s Corinthian church reconciliation and the story of the Prodigal’s homecoming is obvious.  The whole issue is restoration of relationships that have been stretched or broken.

Paul forgave, and made sure everyone knew it was so.  On top of that he made sure everyone knew the origin of the contentious ruckus was Satan’s way of breaking-up the church, while forgiveness is God’s way of telling Satan to take a hike!

Disagreements are going to happen in the human family; we can’t help that. 

Some disagreements will turn into heated debate because it’s hard sometimes to hold dear and strong beliefs and not speak loudly to defend them. 

But, in the end, it is only forgiveness that will honor God; never the dissolution of friendships and family.

No matter who is right or wrong; Calvary proved that!

For You Today

If you’ve been wronged, or been put on the outside in a friendship, church or family relationship, or if you are the one who did the “putting” to someone else…isn’t it time to put it to rest?

That’s what mature Christians do; Satan has had his way far too long; don’t let him outsmart you with his evil schemes.



[1] Title image: By Ken Poirot (Own work) [CC0], via Wikimedia Commons

Thursday, September 11, 2014

We Remember

Thursday, September 11, 2014
Do the best you can to live in peace with everyone.  My friends, don’t try to punish anyone who does wrong to you.  Wait for God to punish them with his anger.  In the Scriptures the Lord says, “I am the one who punishes; I will pay people back.” 
But you should do this:  “If you have enemies who are hungry, give them something to eat.  If you have enemies who are thirsty, give them something to drink.  In doing this you will make them feel ashamed.”            
Romans 12:18-20 (ERV) © 2006 by World Bible Translation Center
If you’re older than 20 it’s hard to forget where you were and what you were doing that day.  I was sitting in my study at church.  The church secretary had turned on the TV and she cried out from down the hall, the Trade Center is on fire.
My immediate thought was simply:  a fire.  That changed quickly.  As we stood watching the first tower burning, reports started unfolding of an “accident” – an airliner had collided with the building.  And, while we watched, the second plane hit.
The word “terrorism” has been part of our national vocabulary ever since.
Throughout that first day we were frustrated trying to get in touch with family and friends living in New York and the surrounding area.  It was a frightening, sickening sensation, wanting to know if loved ones were alright.
Events over the past 13 years have not diminished the memory; the terror in “terrorism” and the devastation in loss have that effect.
But while the terrorists wanted to implant terror – fear which refuses to go away – for most Americans the fear was temporary; what lasts to this day is a cry for justice.
But justice is an incredibly sharp, double-edged pendulum; when it swings it will swiftly measure and exact retribution.  It is much like the man who was obviously guilty and brought before the judge.  With indignation he bellowed, “Judge, I want justice!”  The judge calmly replied, “Sir, considering the evidence against you, I think you meant to ask for mercy.”
This is why Paul reminds us to leave vengeance or payback to the only judge equipped to handle it – God Almighty.  All of us are too bent toward sin to demand justice.  Osama bin Laden has been gone several years now.  Although we may have felt some sense of “closure” at his death – did that really satisfy a thirst for payback? 
Vengeance is like drugs, materialism or sexual perversion – nothing is ever enough; there is always a desire to push-on to the next level, go deeper and gather more.  Vengeance is a dish you cannot serve cold; only God can judge justly.

So What Now?

Today marks the 13th anniversary of the attacks.  Many of us are still often reminded of how different our lives became on that day:
·        security measures at travel venues and sporting events. 
·        9-11 speaks volumes of indelible images to our minds of tragedy and suffering
·        there is distrust and presumed guilt for persons of Muslim faith.
But Paul reminds us to do [our] best to live in peace with everyone
He suggests reversing the fear or terror factor by ministering to our enemies who are hungry and thirsty.
I can think of only one first step in any of that – relinquish!  Let go of fear, anger, or distrust of others.  Give it into God’s capable hands and let Him work out the justice.  Place yourself in the middle of His mercy.

For You, Today

What will you remember today?

I suggest you remember the cross of Calvary, where we were the terrorists, and Jesus forgave.  Then you’ll be in a place to forgive others.

Friday, April 18, 2014

Families and Forgiveness - Part 2

Friday, April 18, 2014
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you.  Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.  Colossians 3:13 (NLT)
What’s so good about writing a daily blog is whenever you have finished writing and posting today, if you find there’s a better way to say it, or if you could have said more but ran out of space….well, there’s always tomorrow.  Well, here’s part 2 about the forgiveness of my Uncle Charlie.
Today is Good Friday, the day of the beatings, mocking, cross-carrying, nails in the hands and feet, suffering, death and burial of our Lord. 
Where does Uncle Charlie fit in here?  (Beside the fact that, like so many of you, Uncle Charlie believed in the gift of Jesus’ suffering and death to bring our salvation).
Here are a couple things I didn’t get to say yesterday about the gift of forgiveness:
1.      Like God’s gift of the cross, Uncle Charlie gave to me something very dear to him.  My uncle had carried that gun through Europe and kept it safe since before I was born.  And when he gave it there were no strings attached.  That speaks very much of how loved I was, both by God and my uncle.
2.      When I came home without that gun I knew I’d messed up by losing my uncle’s treasure.  There was nothing I could do to “un-do” what had been done, or repay or replace the irreplaceable.  I also knew I could never live this one down; I would be “that kid who lost Uncle Charlie’s piece of history”.  But when I came to him, broken hearted, he simply said “what gun”?  Like God says to me now, what sin?
3.      When the gracious heart and hand of forgiveness was extended to me by an earthly uncle, it became my example and pattern to do that for others.  And it serves as a pattern for the calling of proclaiming and extending the Gospel of Jesus Christ to all persons.
There’s a bond which develops between those forgiven and those who have forgiven them.  That bond transcends keeping score; you just know there’s not much better trust than that. 
Over the years as I grew into the forgiveness extended to me, I learned to minister to others.  All along the way I had the prayers of my Aunt and Uncle, and during some dark times near the end of their lives I was given the privilege of ministering to them.
Today…for you
As you prepare for the darkness of Good Friday and then the glorious resurrection of Easter Sunday, let me encourage you to do the work of making room for others in your heart. 
You’ll be surprised how much stronger your voice will be when it’s time to shout, He is risen, indeed!