Showing posts with label Sexuality. Show all posts
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Wednesday, June 23, 2021

Laying Down the Gloves

 

Wednesday, June 23, 2021

Do not stifle the Holy Spirit.  1 Thessalonians 5:19

In the interest of full-disclosure I’ve found a way to anger just about anyone.  It’s been said (too often), if you want to start an argument, talk politics or religion.  Adding to that time-tested maxim, if you want a nuclear-blast kind of argument, combine the nitro of politics with the glycerin of religion.  Ok…so, here goes.

The conservative-liberal spectrum actually does have a center.  Those on the fringe far left or right are rarely those who manage to achieve anything resembling harmony or even civility.  A foaming-at-the-mouth-right-conservative and a foaming-at-the-mouth-left-liberal will never even agree that they disagree.  The only topic will ever be just how awful the other thinks and behaves.  One is steeped in the politics of CNN, the other worships on Fox.  The only meeting of the minds is that the other deserves to be drawn and quartered just long and painfully enough to give his opponent time to think up something really nasty and hurtful to do next. 

The fringe probably amounts to less than 20% of the population, but, as in squeaky wheels, they have the larger audience.  For the other 80% who tend to think a little more clearly (as in allowing for grace and humility), I tend to think of those who have a baseline theological understanding of political bent, but leaning (gracefully) towards the other side; at least to hear and try to understand, if not accede a change of heart and mind.  In this model, for instance, the LEFT-based person believes in affirming LGBTQ++ as normative, but is willing to hear (without dissing) the Biblical/conservative rationale for God's judgment on same.  The Conservative-based-with-liberal-leaning (of which I admit) is the mirror image.  I am an orthodox construct in historical Christianity as a base, interpreting progressive neo-Christian (meaning LGBTQ++ affirmation is ungodly and thereby inviting judgment).  At the same time my "liberal-lean" will cause me to listen with compassion and respect, even if it rankles my doctrinal anchors.  And I do so because the soul of the one to which I listen was created in the image of God - the same God Who created me.

How does that look in street clothes?  I want you to meet Douglas.  Back in the early 1980’s while attending seminary, I worked as a drive-up teller in a bank.  Douglas was a young, single man who worked the same shift.  The bank drive-up lanes were open until 9pm, so we had a lot of time to talk in-between customers.  Douglas was open about his sexuality, and the struggle with which he lived, just wanting a normal life.  Normal seemed an unreachable, and it wasn’t hard to see the tortured, bruised soul that longed to be accepted and genuinely loved.  But there was also an admirable bravery about Douglas opening-up to a very conservative seminary student, someone from the enemy camp.  In that I saw the possibility of true dialogue, a common ground of human compassion.

Other than those long discussions, spurred mostly by Douglas’ questions about God and faith, one forty-year-old memory stands; Douglas came to our home on campus (enemy territory) because we invited him to share a meal together.  It was a holiday, and this very alone young man needed some family time.  It was not a liberation seminar, or condescending normal family throwing the poor gay guy a bone…it was just a few human souls sharing a holiday meal.

Time and circumstances, combined with different life paths took Douglas out of our lives, but the memory remains.  Somehow after the family meal on a warm Fall afternoon, our differences between gay and straight, politically left or right, theologically conservative or progressive,were not the highlight of conversation anymore. 

For You Today

When you let-go of the fighting mode long enough for God’s Spirit to enter the equation, some marvelous changes have a chance to emerge.

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!   


[1] Title Image: Pixabay.com   Unless noted, Scripture quoted from The New Living Translation©

Thursday, March 4, 2021

His Word Over the World

 

Thursday, March 4, 2021

The instructions of the Lord are perfect, reviving the soul. 
The decrees of the Lord are trustworthy, making wise the simple.  
The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart. 
The commands of the Lord are clear, giving insight for living.
Reverence for the Lord is pure, lasting forever.
The laws of the Lord are true; each one is fair.  They are more desirable than gold, even the finest gold.  They are sweeter than honey, even honey dripping from the comb.  They are a warning to your servant, a great reward for those who obey them.
How can I know all the sins lurking in my heart?  Cleanse me from these hidden faults.  Keep your servant from deliberate sins!  Don’t let them control me.  Then I will be free of guilt and innocent of great sin.
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.  Psalm 19:7-14

Like layers of blessing, the instructions, decrees, commandments, commands, and law of the Lord, bring reviving of the soul, wisdom, joy, and insight in daily living that is lasting, sweet, and a great reward for accepting them in word and deed, in heart and hand. 

God’s Word is the key to a life of blessing.  By contrast, disregarding God’s Word is a foolproof method for destroying a life.  Solomon, son of King David, author of this Psalm, spent a lifetime checking out this formula.  He tried virtually everything that promised happiness, fulfillment, and joy, apart from what God had decreed in His Word, and found every bit of it “vanity” or emptiness.

Everything is wearisome beyond description. No matter how much we see, we are never satisfied. No matter how much we hear, we are not content.  Ecclesiastes 1:8

Oddly, and sadly, despite a mountain of experience to the contrary, the world’s culture manages to convince itself that mankind knows better than God.  The result is chasing the wind and reaping the whirlwind.  In typical human arrogance we imagine there is some new way that will be better than obeying God’s ways.

It would be impossible in the space of this five-minute devotional to recount even a sampling of our incredible miscalculations in trying to make God and His Word obsolete, obscure, and unprofitable, but here are two front-burner examples:

God’s Word, decrees, laws, and just plain common, mathematical, logical, way is heterosexuality, within the relationship of marital fidelity.  When a Biblical approach to life[1], family, and sexuality are upheld, life is more on the joyful side than painful.  Read that:  less drama, more fulfillment.   

In contrast, the world’s way is anything goes, with sexual promiscuity and libido   (sexual desire) as the only judge of what is good or healthy.  To cut to the chase in the “results” department…the end of such is pretty much just plain heartbreak.

Politics

Of late, but not new, humans experiment with how to socially engineer community to create the next great world order.  In America that experiment occurs every 2 to 4 years; we call it democratic elections.  We choose who will govern us.  Truth be told we vacillate, wildly-so, between extremes.  In 2016 we elected Donald Trump; in 2020 it was Joe Biden.  Extremes between the left and right, both with enough personal baggage and agenda to keep the pundits happy and employed until the next go-round.

Cutting to the blunt and sane decree, command of God, our political flags ought to be run up this pole:

No, O people, the Lord has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you:  to do what is right, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.  Micah 6:8

For You Today

This culture’s ways, or God’s ways…you just can’t have both.

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!

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[1] A “Biblical approach” is not the media and atheistic caricatured version; it is marriage and family life which mutually undergirds the principles of love, with accountability to God.

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Cleaning Up the Mess

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

One day Jesus said to his disciples, “There will always be temptations to sin, but what sorrow awaits the person who does the tempting!  It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.  So watch yourselves!  “If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.  Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”  Luke 17:1-4(NLT)

General Conference 2019 is in the books, and now comes the clean-up.  It’s not just sweeping-up debris left in St. Louis’ Dome Conference Center, but the debris of tempers that flared, hearts that broke, spirits that are crushed, and lives that must be lived.  No matter which side you may have been rooting-for, or if you were just observing, shaking your head at it all, votes were cast, one side declared in the majority, and the division in the United Methodist Church will continue.
As does the struggle between darkness and light…everywhere!
Jesus reminded us that temptation to sin is endless…and those who promote such with their words, attitudes, and actions will suffer judgment at the hand of God.  For those who “won” in St. Louis, this is no time to gloat.  Gloating is rubbing salt in the wounds of a rebuked person, and, frankly, losing a contentious battle with 13 million worldwide participants, before a world population watching Christians duke it out in the Dome…well, that’s enough salt for one day.  In fact, it’s enough salt for a lifetime.  It is now time to lay down the banners and placards; the process is over, and readiness to forgive is all that should be on the table.  Jesus said we must be ready to forgive endlessly; 70 x 7 is a really big number!
Just one thing about the winning side – there is no winner when Christians brawl.  It makes little difference who the aggressor was, who carried the day’s vote, or whether the decision made was right, wrong, or inconsequential; the most consequential piece of fallout is that denominational squabbles are not played-out in a vacuum; the world has seen people who purport to be disciples of the Prince of Peace acting like World War II was just a minor disagreement.
I have heard sociologists and psychologists hold that it takes roughly 10 positive words to overcome one negative word.  If that is true, and I strongly suspect it is, the four days of this General Conference will put off any kind of sweeping revival for the cause of Christ by at least two centuries and another dark age.  In the end, I’m certain there is rejoicing in the pit of Hell.
And, with those words still ringing, annoying to the bone, I will quit talking about General Conference, and the Methodist bruhaha.  It’s time to get on to something important.
For You Today
Let’s let Scripture speak a word of healing for today:

Be still in the presence of the Lord,
    and wait patiently for him to act.
Don’t worry about evil people who prosper
    or fret about their wicked schemes.

Stop being angry!
    Turn from your rage!
Do not lose your temper—
    it only leads to harm.
For the wicked will be destroyed,
    but those who trust in the Lord will possess the land. 
Psalm 37:7-9(NLT)

This is how to clean up after the storm…even if you helped make it!
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day.

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Monday, February 25, 2019

More Harm Than Good

Tuesday, February 26, 2019
But in the following instructions, I cannot praise you.  For it sounds as if more harm than good is done when you meet together.  First, I hear that there are divisions among you when you meet as a church, and to some extent I believe it.  But, of course, there must be divisions among you so that you who have God’s approval will be recognized!  When you meet together, you are not really interested in the Lord’s Supper.  For some of you hurry to eat your own meal without sharing with others.  As a result, some go hungry while others get drunk.  What?  Don’t you have your own homes for eating and drinking?  Or do you really want to disgrace God’s church and shame the poor?  What am I supposed to say?  Do you want me to praise you?  Well, I certainly will not praise you for this!  1 Corinthians 11:17-22 (NLT)

Disclaimer

For those of you who are not United Methodist, please forgive me for airing the laundry; this is a watershed time for the children of Wesley, and these morning devotionals are filled with prayer for my tribe.  We will likely return to a more general approach after the final vote on Tuesday.
This title (More Harm Than Good) is an unlikely one for a denomination that has its root in the sweeping Methodist revival across America in the 18-19th century, which leader, John Wesley, is quoted as saying we must:
Do all the good you can, 
By all the means you can, 
In all the ways you can,
In all the places you can, 
At all the times you can, 
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.
But as my tribe meets in St. Louis to decide if we can live together any more, I’m wondering how much damage the fracas will total when all is said and done.
For the past 50 years (ever since the 1968 merger of Methodist and Evangelical United Brethren to form the United Methodist Church) this denomination has been always at the forefront in social justice issues.  The current embroilment is human sexuality, mainly whether the long-standing doctrinal posture that …homosexuality is incompatible with Christian teaching will stand, or if we must change to allow full-inclusiveness for LGBTQ persons, particularly in ordination, i.e., clergy orders.
Admittedly, I have no simple solution, nor do I think there is anything approaching a simple solution to the dilemma that confronts the United Methodist Church.  But there are two concerns that mitigate against a Hallmark Movie ending to this debate under any circumstances:

Unity

Anytime you have two or more groups which hold a significantly-different opinion (i.e. doctrine) about an issue, you have an impasse; that is to say, a brick wall.  Take, for instance, a marriage where the husband is in favor of monogamy, and the wife favors an open marriage, where she is free to date (and sleep with) other men.  Unless one changes his/her mind, there will always be contention and unhappiness, or that which ends the so-called unity, namely divorce.  There are no other possibilities. 

Conscience

In this case, the progressive side of the (so-called) “United” Methodist Church is asking the traditionalist side to affirm that their doctrine of homosexuality, trans-sexuality, bi-sexuality, cis-gender, and anything-goes-uality, regarding gender and orientation is just as valid as heterosexuality.
Regardless of millennia of ecclesiastic thought, debate and accepted Scriptural understanding, stated, written, and practiced, progressives want traditionalists to now change their minds and accept/practice/live with what is heretofore deemed sexual perversion. 
I have no simple answers, but this much is not in question – how can any group ask the other group to violate moral conscience, and still call oneself a Christian?
For You Today
Please join me in praying for my tribe’s delegates, for clarity of the Mind of Christ, as they vote later today…lest we do more harm than good to the Body of Christ.
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day.

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Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Anxious Moments

Wednesday, July 11, 2018
“Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.”  Psalm 46:10(NLT)
Yesterday’s devotion on patience revealed how “anxious” a control-freak pastor can get when stuff happens to turn a worship service on its ear.  I’d like to revisit that today for a few moments to pull back the flap of an introvert’s quiet, control-loving insides.
That thing the Psalmist wrote about being still is something that comes naturally to me.  Introverts prefer – uh, change that to love, crave, and would sometimes actually consider killing for – quiet!  Well, not really, but you get the picture.  My traditional response to seeing high-energy interactive opportunities is to grab a book and head for the nearest quiet corner!
The difference between “type-A” and “type-B” (extroverted vs. introverted) personality types is well-documented.  The A-types crave interaction and being with as many others as can fill a noisy room.  Type-B’s prefer one-on-one, and a much quieter experience. 
Some research about pastors indicates there are many more introverted pastors than the other.  Strange, isn’t it?  You know that old saying about the pickup line in a bar:  What’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?  It applies here:  Hey, pastor, what’s an introverted book worm like you doing leading a frenzied mess we call church?
Now that may say two things:  the first is that you don’t choose ministry; it captures you when God taps you on the shoulder and says:  Saddle-up, bucko…it’s time to ride.  The other thing has to do with God’s sense of humor; only God would choose a quiet-loving person to be a pastor, where he has to stand in front of a crowd, and stand-up even in the awkward moments to push for the right thing to be done.  You gotta love God’s sense of humor!
Now, it’s not that introverts can’t function in a crowd; we just prefer the quieter ways.  But when we do find ourselves in the fast lane, we will hunt the quickest exit ramp.  That’s because socializing really takes the energy out of an introvert’s batteries.  After the ball is over it takes a lot longer to recharge our batteries than the average extrovert.
So, what does that mean to the introverted pastor who wants to obey God’s call to share the Good News, but still maintain sanity, relevance, and transparent integrity?  In short, how can I still be who I really am, if I must continually work against the natural tendencies I was born with?  I’m quiet by nature, but I must speak up.  I’m shy in social situations, but I’m called to engage anyway.  I prefer thinking, but am expected to talk.
Well, it IS a problem, but, before we gavel the Russell pity-party to order here, let’s take a look around.  What other kinds of “natural” tendencies do we see that God seems to want us to “overcome” in favor of something opposite? 
·      What about tempers popping-off at the slightest offense? 
·      How about gluttonous appetites going back for a fourth time at the buffet line at the annual homecoming dinner on the grounds? 
·      What about the anger that crushes a spouse’s hopes and dreams, or even her eye socket and collarbone? 
·      What about the tendency to give up on people or even church? 
·      What about the child learning to go through life as if everyone else is unimportant…only to be screamed at if you don’t get the toy you wanted? 
·      What about striking-back when the world has done you dirty?
·      And, lest we forget the current ruckus in which the United Methodist Church is embroiled – sexuality issues.  What about our tendencies to do, (and be) what we want – the way we were made…work out all that animal lust our way, and not God’s way?
In the same way this introvert, flawed, sometimes petulantly quiet and moody, needs to get a life, put on a smile, shake a hand, and give a hug to someone who needs it, all of us need to keep our natural tendencies under the influence of self-discipline. 
God calls all of us to that!
For You Today
Paul told the Ephesian church this about their natural tendencies that made them selfish and less than Kingdom stars for Jesus:
We are to grow up and be more like Christ. He is the leader of the church.  
Ephesians 4:15b(NLV)
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day. 

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Thursday, February 8, 2018

Explaining the Good in the Bad News

Thursday, February 8, 2018
Another rebel leader was Jeroboam son of Nebat, one of Solomon’s own officials.  He came from the town of Zeredah in Ephraim, and his mother was Zeruah, a widow.  This is the story behind his rebellion.  Solomon was rebuilding the supporting terraces and repairing the walls of the city of his father, David.  Jeroboam was a very capable young man, and when Solomon saw how industrious he was, he put him in charge of the labor force from the tribes of Ephraim and Manasseh, the descendants of Joseph.  One day as Jeroboam was leaving Jerusalem, the prophet Ahijah from Shiloh met him along the way.  Ahijah was wearing a new cloak.  The two of them were alone in a field, and Ahijah took hold of the new cloak he was wearing and tore it into twelve pieces.  Then he said to Jeroboam, “Take ten of these pieces, for this is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says:  ‘I am about to tear the kingdom from the hand of Solomon, and I will give ten of the tribes to you!  But I will leave him one tribe for the sake of my servant David and for the sake of Jerusalem, which I have chosen out of all the tribes of Israel.   For Solomon has abandoned me and worshiped Ashtoreth, the goddess of the Sidonians; Chemosh, the god of Moab; and Molech, the god of the Ammonites.  He has not followed my ways and done what is pleasing in my sight.  He has not obeyed my decrees and regulations as David his father did.  “‘But I will not take the entire kingdom from Solomon at this time.  For the sake of my servant David, the one whom I chose and who obeyed my commands and decrees, I will keep Solomon as leader for the rest of his life.  But I will take the kingdom away from his son and give ten of the tribes to you.  His son will have one tribe so that the descendants of David my servant will continue to reign, shining like a lamp in Jerusalem, the city I have chosen to be the place for my name.  And I will place you on the throne of Israel, and you will rule over all that your heart desires.  If you listen to what I tell you and follow my ways and do whatever I consider to be right, and if you obey my decrees and commands, as my servant David did, then I will always be with you.  I will establish an enduring dynasty for you as I did for David, and I will give Israel to you.  Because of Solomon’s sin I will punish the descendants of David—though not forever.’”  Solomon tried to kill Jeroboam, but he fled to King Shishak of Egypt and stayed there until Solomon died.  1 Kings 11:26-40(NLT)
Solomon may have been the wisest man ever…but he managed (at times) to ignore his own smarts by ignoring Jehovah God and worshipping the gods and goddesses of the surrounding pagans.  These gods were particularly the kind of in-your-face gods for anyone claiming to be a child of the kingdom.  Ashtoreth was a fertility goddess, and worship included temple prostitution.  Chemosh was a god of war; for an Israelite to worship the god generally called upon to defeat Israel…well, what does that say about collusion with the enemy?  And Molech was a god that required child sacrifice.  Incidentally, a quick survey of 21st century life in America shows these gods have made wide inroads into our Western culture. 
For Solomon’s infidelity to the God he had pledged to serve, his kingdom was torn from him, divided and weakened.  The point is well-taken:  worship is when you give your attention and allegiance to anything.  Solomon was worshipping other gods; the one true God will not tolerate that!
But…there is a bit of good news in the bad here.  Note that God left Solomon as a leader to a small portion of the nation.  This was due to God’s promise to David.  Like Solomon, David had strayed from his vows to God; unlike Solomon, David had repented and returned to the fold.  This “following after” and serving God restored God’s favor on David, and renewed God’s original covenant to bless David’s lineage…namely Solomon.
A note for our country today:  The good, Godly integrity of our founders and those who have carried the purposes of God on in our short history since 1776 has faded like a worn-out, over-washed set of jeans.  We no longer see fiercely-maintained moral conduct as even a desirable character trait.  Our nation is still strong militarily and economically, but the basis of all strength – the goodness that comes from faith in, and fidelity-towards God, is hardly flourishing.  We, like Solomon may be resting on former sacrifice and service.  The coming tearing-apart of the land we claim to love is on the horizon…and it hardly takes a prophet to speak the math of what’s coming.
Perhaps it is not too late to turn around…to repent…to give up our Ashtoreth, Chemosh, and Molech wanderings, and come home to our Father’s fold.
For You Today
What does it take to be wiser than a Solomon?  Serve God…not what everybody else is worshiping.
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road today.


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Thursday, October 19, 2017

Leaving the Door UNLOCKED for God's Spirit

Thursday, October 19, 2017
“But now I am going away to the one who sent me, and not one of you is asking where I am going.  Instead, you grieve because of what I’ve told you.  But in fact, it is best for you that I go away, because if I don’t, the Advocate won’t come.  If I do go away, then I will send him to you.  And when he comes, he will convict the world of its sin, and of God’s righteousness, and of the coming judgment. 
John 16:5-8(NLT)
When our youngest child, Carrie (now a mother of two boys) was only 7, her best friend, Amber lived just around the corner from our house.  Sometimes this duo would play at Amber’s house, and sometimes at ours.  Whenever the after-school play was away from home, Carrie knew she had to be home before dark.  Most times she made it.  One time it was well after the street lights came on that we spotted her coming down our street towards the house.  I decided to make an important point about the missed curfew.  I stood (silently, but rather menacing) in the carport, arms folded with appropriate “Dad-scowl” on.  Carrie, our little princess was skipping home, singing a carefree child’s song, and never saw me standing in the dark shadow of the doorway…until she was right in front of me.  She stopped dead in her tracks like a head-on collision, looked-up at my dead-pan face, with the blood drained from her own face, white as a sheet, remembering the curfew, and proclaimed in a small, stage whisper:  I’m dead meat!
I have to admit it was really…I mean REALLY hard to keep my smile hidden, much less keep the belly-laugh that wanted to burst-out of me down where it belonged.  It was even harder to impose the sentence of a weeks’ worth of no-play after school.  After all, she’d gotten it; it was a momentary, childish lapse of thought…and she was only 7 with a ton of remorse.  We let her off with a warning.
The remarkable thing to me was that I never had to say a word.  Conscience, presence, and the working of God’s Spirit to bring righteousness to the surface was what that situation needed – not another sermon.  Sure, my child felt guilty – some guilt is warranted when you’ve stepped over the line.  The fact that she felt guilty is a mark that God’s Spirit was working in her.  That is what Jesus told the disciples would happen when the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, would come to bring conviction to the hearts of people everywhere.  Some guilt is necessary and good, particularly when it points you in the direction of Heaven.
There is a decided “no-vote” in our culture today – against morality and judgment.  Everything and anything that remotely suggests a flaw in sexuality, relationships, conversation or lifestyle behavior is seen as judgmental; say it twice and you’re guilty of a hate crime.  Mention God while you’re saying it and you are a Bible-thumping bigot.
Today’s generation wants everyone to be accepted and feel accepted.  However, lifestyle choices that are 180° opposite of what Scripture declares as righteous, is what makes people uncomfortable around people who are attempting to live a life surrendered to God’s will.  You mostly don’t have to say a word; the Spirit of God will be in the midst of your relationships with others.  Those who live rebellious lives, apart from God and refusing to submit to His will, inevitably blame the Christians in front of them; if you’re the target…if you’re the dead meat for their anger, so be it; it is the Holy Spirit of God they’re fighting against – not you.

For You Today

Some guilt is holy.  Sometimes people need to see their sin, and feel the reproving of the Spirit. 
Most times it is a wise thing to lock your lips, and leave the door open and unlocked for God’s Spirit to do what He wills…not what you think.
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road…have a blessed day!

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