Showing posts with label Listening. Show all posts
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Tuesday, May 9, 2023

Communicating...Sorta

Tuesday, May 9, 2023

Disclaimer:  Gentlemen…Mother’s Day is at hand….there…you’re warned!

But there is one thing I want you to know:  The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.  1 Corinthians 11:3

It is my belief that men really do want to communicate; contrary to the stereotypes that you see, where the husband has the newspaper up over his face at the kitchen table.  Everything the wife says to him, he grunts a response.  Men aren't that way deep down.  This is a stereotype produced by ignorance.  But, sometimes it shows up in our character, and then in the funny papers.  Leroy and Loretta Lockhorn are walking down the street, and he says to her:  Let's go some place noisy where we can't hear each other.  I don't believe men are really like that; I believe men want to communicate.  Men realize the importance of communication.  The tricky part is doing it! 

Communication is not an exact science.  Women communicate differently than men.  The Bible says we must speak the truth in love.  I believe that to be a bit of Apostle Paul’s advice that applies to both male and female.  By that I mean men and women both believe it; they just practice it differently.  The men relate to the part that says speak the truth.  The women concentrate on in love.  Men are interested in logic, the right brain problem solving mechanism.  Women, however, don't just want truth and problems solved; it must be in a loving way.  Women want to talk about things.  When I arrive home from a day at the office, if my wife has a problem, she wants to discuss it.  There is something therapeutic for her in sharing.  I am a problem-solving machine.  She states the problem, I immediately have a six-point program, complete with intermediate reporting steps and accountability factors to fix that puppy!  And I think I'm doing real well...man I'm communicating!  After dutifully listening for several minutes, my wife loses interest and busies herself in making dinner.  I wonder what in the world I did to make her mad.  Lack of communication. 

We were talking about the same event, but I was bulldozing it out of existence, while she wanted to squeeze every last drop of meaning from the depths of all relationships involved.

In Brewer, Maine, the police got a phone call one time about a woman who was very disturbed.  She was talking to a lady friend of hers on the phone.  After a while the phone just went quiet and all she could hear was gasping breaths in the distance.  She couldn't get her friend to respond.  The police sent a patrol car.  The cop knocked on the door, but could get no response.  She went around to the side and looked in the kitchen window.  There was the woman, spread-eagle on the floor, with the phone next to her.  She thought:  Oh my gosh, she's had a heart attack and died right there!  She was going to break in the door, but knocked just in case there was another family member in the house somewhere.  When the door opened, it was the woman who was laying in the kitchen.  She explained, I'm so sorry.  I guess we were talking too long on the phone.  I laid down on the floor to rest a moment and fell asleep while Hattie was talkin' to me.  (As a preacher I can relate!)

For You Today 

Men need to practice communicating, not dictating orders, solving everybody's problems, being the general in the house.  If a man desires to be called head of the house he will take the time to learn how to communicate with his wife.

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!

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There are about 2,500 devotional posts and 400 sermons in the Rocky Road Devotions library.  To dig deeper explore some of these:   No Cannoli  and  A Misunderstanding   

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Monday, April 24, 2023

Please...Say That Again

Monday, April 24, 2023

The Lord appeared again to Abraham near the oak grove belonging to Mamre. One day Abraham was sitting at the entrance to his tent during the hottest part of the day.  He looked up and noticed three men standing nearby.  When he saw them, he ran to meet them and welcomed them, bowing low to the ground.  “My lord,” he said, “if it pleases you, stop here for a while.  Rest in the shade of this tree while water is brought to wash your feet.  And since you’ve honored your servant with this visit, let me prepare some food to refresh you before you continue on your journey.”  “All right,” they said. “Do as you have said.”  So Abraham ran back to the tent and said to Sarah, “Hurry! Get three large measures of your best flour, knead it into dough, and bake some bread.”  Then Abraham ran out to the herd and chose a tender calf and gave it to his servant, who quickly prepared it.  When the food was ready, Abraham took some yogurt and milk and the roasted meat, and he served it to the men.  As they ate, Abraham waited on them in the shade of the trees.  “Where is Sarah, your wife?” the visitors asked.  “She’s inside the tent,” Abraham replied.  Then one of them said, “I will return to you about this time next year, and your wife, Sarah, will have a son!”  Sarah was listening to this conversation from the tent.  Abraham and Sarah were both very old by this time, and Sarah was long past the age of having children.  So she laughed silently to herself and said, “How could a worn-out woman like me enjoy such pleasure, especially when my master—my husband—is also so old?”  Then the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh?  Why did she say, ‘Can an old woman like me have a baby?’  Is anything too hard for the Lord?  I will return about this time next year, and Sarah will have a son.”  Genesis 18:1-13

Abraham had no problem understanding what was happening, and how important his three visitors were.  This was not his first rodeo; many years prior God had appeared to him and invited Abraham to uproot and become a follower.  On that journey he’d seen the hand of God move in miraculous provision, protection, and promise-fulfillment.  Abraham’s scurrying to get a meal and resting place ready for this triune theophany visit wasn’t just hospitality, this was an unannounced blessing of the presence of the eternal, almighty God, Jehovah; you pay attention, and listen like it’s the most important conversation ever!

If Abraham was busy thrusting every bit of attention to the Lord’s visit, Sarah simply eavesdropped.  God knew where she was, but the series of questions was asked out loud for Abraham’s benefit (and Sarah’s instruction).  Where is she?  Why did she laugh?  Why did she question my announcement of her pregnancy?  Leading questions are followed by the interrogative that ends excuse-making, and makes your head spin:  Is anything too hard for the LORD?  In the face of laughing at a promise God makes, you can always expect a challenge of faith.  And once God asks you to declare your faith with a “yes” or “no” the debate is over!

For You Today 

If you’ve been on Abraham’s journey with God for a good while, you certainly know what it’s like to pant, out-of-breath, just trying to keep-up.  And you’re also aware you don’t question the direction, you just cooperate!  You learn that lesson when you laugh like Sarah, and a brief time later the evidence of how right He was, and how foolish you were, is getting large in your belly cementing the lesson forever in your mind.  So, the next time God points you in a direction you hadn’t seen coming, whether it looks possible…good, or bad…or just too good to be real…try not to laugh.  God’s biggest and best blessings tend to happen in the unplanned and unimaginable!

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!

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Tuesday, March 1, 2022

Listen Closely

 

Tuesday, March 1, 2022

On July 31 of my thirtieth year, while I was with the Judean exiles beside the Kebar River in Babylon, the heavens were opened and I saw visions of God….  “Stand up, son of man,” said the voice. “I want to speak with you.” 

Ezekiel 1:1, 2:1

Ezekiel was thirty years old and he heard the voice telling him to snap to attention; he was about to hear something important.  In my mind’s-eye I can see Ezekiel jumping to his feet to listen closely, as if his father had just called him by his full name. 

I know that voice; it sounds just like my mother when she used my full name:  Russell Jay Brownworth, pay attention!  My Mom never took me to the woodshed (we didn’t have one, but you know what that means). 

There were times to push the envelope in seeing how much extra time you could get playing outside – and there were times to stand up and be quiet, or, as we liked to call it, listen or die!  This was one of those times for Ezekiel.  When the voice of an angel speaks, humans need to snap-to-attention. 

Angels are messengers (that is the strictest sense of what the name implies, God’s messengers).  They have no message of their own, they are a delivery system to convey God’s message to humanity.  And this angel’s message to Ezekiel was God’s Word, prepared for a very stubborn-minded group of people.  Ezekiel was to be faithful in delivering it, and even if they disobeyed, this message would stand as evidence to their stubbornness.

I’ve always had a bit of stubborn in me.  That may be why I developed a little deafness when it came the use of my full name.  It’s not that I didn’t pay a price.  As I said, Mom never took me to the woodshed for correction, but she knew my father’s full name, and he didn’t hesitate to make sure I understood the importance of listening closely to what Mom had to say.  It’s no wonder I always thought of my Dad as something of God’s messenger in our house!

For You Today

Evidence of God’s messages is all around us, in every part of creation, and in every relationship, and thought.  Sometimes you just have to stand up and listen closely!

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!  

[1] Title image:  Pixabay.com  Unless noted, Scripture quoted from The New Living Translation©    

Wednesday, September 1, 2021

Digging Deeper to Find Compassion

 

Wednesday, September 1, 2021

The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him.  Psalm 103:13

Some years ago I served as pastor at a church in Florida’s Gator city, Gainesville.  The city-wide pastime there is finding a street without a traffic jam.  I used to take a shortcut down one of the side streets every day on the way to the church because it was usually never crowded.  There were a number of very beautiful homes on this street. 

Driving down that road one day, I noticed a large hole had been dug in the middle of a front yard.  It was curious.  The next day the hole was twice the size.  I wondered.  On the third day the hole was humongous, covering nearly half the yard!  I almost stopped to check it out, but resolved if there was time tomorrow I would stop and ask the owner what was going on. 

On day 4, there was a hastily made sign near the hole, a half-sheet of plywood, propped up with a two-by-four, facing the street for all the curious drivers of cars to see.  Three words were painted in angry red:  It's a Pond!

We don't live in a friendly world.  For the most part people hang their signs out that say, Leave me alone – Don't stop – Don't ask – Don't bother me!   That's not the way they really feel.  It's a conditioned response to growing up in a scary world.  It's like when people whistle in the dark; the louder you whistle the more frightened you may be on the inside. 

People are afraid to trust.  There are so many voices, it’s scary to trust.  But the Father has called us to fellowship.  He's called us to be trustworthy, and vulnerable, and open, so the signmakers of this world will see that we were meant to love each other.  And the signmakers of this world really do want you to stop and ask; they've just been taught to be afraid. 

For You Today

There are hurting people with their little signs posted all over.  Will you ignore those signs and stop anyway?  Will you go to those without hope?  Will you hear their pain?  Will you share the peace of Jesus you've found? 

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!   

[1] Title and Other Images:  Pixabay.com  Unless noted, Scripture quoted from The New Living Translation©    





 

Wednesday, June 23, 2021

Laying Down the Gloves

 

Wednesday, June 23, 2021

Do not stifle the Holy Spirit.  1 Thessalonians 5:19

In the interest of full-disclosure I’ve found a way to anger just about anyone.  It’s been said (too often), if you want to start an argument, talk politics or religion.  Adding to that time-tested maxim, if you want a nuclear-blast kind of argument, combine the nitro of politics with the glycerin of religion.  Ok…so, here goes.

The conservative-liberal spectrum actually does have a center.  Those on the fringe far left or right are rarely those who manage to achieve anything resembling harmony or even civility.  A foaming-at-the-mouth-right-conservative and a foaming-at-the-mouth-left-liberal will never even agree that they disagree.  The only topic will ever be just how awful the other thinks and behaves.  One is steeped in the politics of CNN, the other worships on Fox.  The only meeting of the minds is that the other deserves to be drawn and quartered just long and painfully enough to give his opponent time to think up something really nasty and hurtful to do next. 

The fringe probably amounts to less than 20% of the population, but, as in squeaky wheels, they have the larger audience.  For the other 80% who tend to think a little more clearly (as in allowing for grace and humility), I tend to think of those who have a baseline theological understanding of political bent, but leaning (gracefully) towards the other side; at least to hear and try to understand, if not accede a change of heart and mind.  In this model, for instance, the LEFT-based person believes in affirming LGBTQ++ as normative, but is willing to hear (without dissing) the Biblical/conservative rationale for God's judgment on same.  The Conservative-based-with-liberal-leaning (of which I admit) is the mirror image.  I am an orthodox construct in historical Christianity as a base, interpreting progressive neo-Christian (meaning LGBTQ++ affirmation is ungodly and thereby inviting judgment).  At the same time my "liberal-lean" will cause me to listen with compassion and respect, even if it rankles my doctrinal anchors.  And I do so because the soul of the one to which I listen was created in the image of God - the same God Who created me.

How does that look in street clothes?  I want you to meet Douglas.  Back in the early 1980’s while attending seminary, I worked as a drive-up teller in a bank.  Douglas was a young, single man who worked the same shift.  The bank drive-up lanes were open until 9pm, so we had a lot of time to talk in-between customers.  Douglas was open about his sexuality, and the struggle with which he lived, just wanting a normal life.  Normal seemed an unreachable, and it wasn’t hard to see the tortured, bruised soul that longed to be accepted and genuinely loved.  But there was also an admirable bravery about Douglas opening-up to a very conservative seminary student, someone from the enemy camp.  In that I saw the possibility of true dialogue, a common ground of human compassion.

Other than those long discussions, spurred mostly by Douglas’ questions about God and faith, one forty-year-old memory stands; Douglas came to our home on campus (enemy territory) because we invited him to share a meal together.  It was a holiday, and this very alone young man needed some family time.  It was not a liberation seminar, or condescending normal family throwing the poor gay guy a bone…it was just a few human souls sharing a holiday meal.

Time and circumstances, combined with different life paths took Douglas out of our lives, but the memory remains.  Somehow after the family meal on a warm Fall afternoon, our differences between gay and straight, politically left or right, theologically conservative or progressive,were not the highlight of conversation anymore. 

For You Today

When you let-go of the fighting mode long enough for God’s Spirit to enter the equation, some marvelous changes have a chance to emerge.

You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day!   


[1] Title Image: Pixabay.com   Unless noted, Scripture quoted from The New Living Translation©

Friday, October 19, 2018

The Wisdom of Elihu - Part 2

Friday, October 19, 2018
Elihu, Job’s friend, continues his speech from yesterday, attempting to show Job the futility of arguing with God:

“Pay attention to this, Job.  Stop and consider the wonderful miracles of God!  Do you know how God controls the storm and causes the lightning to flash from his clouds?  Do you understand how he moves the clouds with wonderful perfection and skill?  When you are sweltering in your clothes and the south wind dies down and everything is still, he makes the skies reflect the heat like a bronze mirror.  Can you do that?  “So teach the rest of us what to say to God.  We are too ignorant to make our own arguments.  Should God be notified that I want to speak?  Can people even speak when they are confused?  We cannot look at the sun, for it shines brightly in the sky when the wind clears away the clouds.  So also, golden splendor comes from the mountain of God.  He is clothed in dazzling splendor.  We cannot imagine the power of the Almighty; but even though he is just and righteous, he does not destroy us.  No wonder people everywhere fear him.  All who are wise show him reverence.”  Job 37:14-24(NLT)

Yesterday, Elihu (in my humble opinion), flirted with the border of meddling where he didn’t belong, flinging out a defense of God’s character and behavior.  He offered the standard thinking of the day:  if you’re suffering, you’ve done something wrong, and God is justified in raking you over the coals until you get it right.
However, I believe Elihu missed two important points:
a.      He wasn’t qualified to know Job’s insides, and what guilt was or wasn’t there
b.      He definitely wasn’t qualified to know God’s insides, and why God does what God does!
Common sense would have been well-served had Elihu followed the advice of the sage:  It is better to keep one’s mouth shut and be thought a fool, than to open that mouth and remove all doubt![2]
Well, here, even though Elihu’s lips are still cranking out what his brain is trying to understand, he seems to have scrambled back on the higher ground of reverence for both God and Job, his friend, who appears to be going under in a classic crash-and-burn of self-justification. Elihu rehearses for Job some of the everyday miracles of God’s sovereignty over the universe – the heavens filled with clouds, thunder and lightning, and just like trying to look into that fireball of a sun with naked eyes will blind you, attempting to scrutinize Jehovah’s right to meddle with Job’s good life could get you toasted to a crisp.  Elihu is telling his friend to be careful when he opens a conversation with God.
As much as there is wisdom and verity in what Elihu says (and probably a very pure-hearted concern for Job), I still must take issue with that part about being careful when you speak to God.  Rather, I would say it is at those times when you talk to God that it is particularly important to drop your guard completely and let everything out!
Prayer is not a time to convince God of anything or try to flatter God into giving you what you want.  Prayer is a time for emptying the heart and letting God choose what to put in there.  As others, wiser than I have suggested, I don’t change circumstances by my prayer; in prayer God changes me to stand and face the circumstances.  I am like a frightened little boy who runs to his Papa.  Papa embraces me, and then turns me around to face what frightened me…from HIS perspective.
For You Today
And so, the bottom line, for Elihu, Job, or any of us, is:
When you go to God, don’t hold back…run full-speed into His arms, empty it all out, fears, needs, sorrow, joy, anger, unbelief…
And then don’t be surprised when he turns you back around to face the music; just know that you’re not standing alone…He’s standing right where He can have your back!
You chew on that as you hit the Rocky Road; have a blessed day.

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[2] Proverbs 17:28 (also famously attributed to such wise men as Mark Twain and Abraham Lincoln)

Sunday, July 1, 2018

When All is Well


What sorrow awaits the unjust judges and those who issue unfair laws.  They deprive the poor of justice and deny the rights of the needy among my people.  They prey on widows and take advantage of orphans.  What will you do when I punish you, when I send disaster upon you from a distant land?  To whom will you turn for help?  Where will your treasures be safe?  You will stumble along as prisoners or lie among the dead.  But even then the Lord’s anger will not be satisfied.  His fist is still poised to strike.  “What sorrow awaits Assyria, the rod of my anger.  I use it as a club to express my anger.  I am sending Assyria against a godless nation, against a people with whom I am angry.  Assyria will plunder them, trampling them like dirt beneath its feet.  But the king of Assyria will not understand that he is my tool; his mind does not work that way.  His plan is simply to destroy, to cut down nation after nation.  He will say, ‘Each of my princes will soon be a king.  We destroyed Calno just as we did Carchemish.  Hamath fell before us as Arpad did.  And we destroyed Samaria just as we did Damascus.  Yes, we have finished off many a kingdom whose gods were greater than those in Jerusalem and Samaria.  So we will defeat Jerusalem and her gods, just as we destroyed Samaria with hers.’”  After the Lord has used the king of Assyria to accomplish his purposes on Mount Zion and in Jerusalem, he will turn against the king of Assyria and punish him—for he is proud and arrogant.  He boasts, “By my own powerful arm I have done this.  With my own shrewd wisdom I planned it.  I have broken down the defenses of nations and carried off their treasures. I have knocked down their kings like a bull.  I have robbed their nests of riches and gathered up kingdoms as a farmer gathers eggs.  No one can even flap a wing against me or utter a peep of protest.”  But can the ax boast greater power than the person who uses it?  Is the saw greater than the person who saws?  Can a rod strike unless a hand moves it?  Can a wooden cane walk by itself?  Therefore, the Lord, the Lord of Heaven’s Armies, will send a plague among Assyria’s proud troops, and a flaming fire will consume its glory.  The Lord, the Light of Israel, will be a fire; the Holy One will be a flame.  He will devour the thorns and briers with fire, burning up the enemy in a single night.  The Lord will consume Assyria’s glory like a fire consumes a forest in a fruitful land; it will waste away like sick people in a plague.  Of all that glorious forest, only a few trees will survive—so few that a child could count them!  In that day the remnant left in Israel, the survivors in the house of Jacob, will no longer depend on allies who seek to destroy them.  But they will faithfully trust the Lord, the Holy One of Israel.  A remnant will return; yes, the remnant of Jacob will return to the Mighty God.  But though the people of Israel are as numerous as the sand of the seashore, only a remnant of them will return.  The Lord has rightly decided to destroy his people.  Yes, the Lord, the Lord of Heaven’s Armies, has already decided to destroy the entire land.  So this is what the Lord, the Lord of Heaven’s Armies, says: “O my people in Zion, do not be afraid of the Assyrians when they oppress you with rod and club as the Egyptians did long ago.  In a little while my anger against you will end, and then my anger will rise up to destroy them.”  The Lord of Heaven’s Armies will lash them with his whip, as he did when Gideon triumphed over the Midianites at the rock of Oreb, or when the Lord’s staff was raised to drown the Egyptian army in the sea.  In that day the Lord will end the bondage of his people.  He will break the yoke of slavery and lift it from their shoulders.
What sorrow awaits you who are praised by the crowds, for their ancestors also praised false prophets.  Luke 6:26 (NLT)
Woe, when all speak well of you!  Have you ever gotten a pat on the back with praise for a job well done?  Was it truly a pat on the back, or was the patter simply checking the target zone for inserting a knife?  If you’re going to be in politics these days, you might as well get used to that kind of praise and pat-down! 
Isaiah’s prophecy reads like a glowing reminder; a flashing, iridescent red caution light which ought to be on every world leader’s desk to be humble, worship and honor God, and lead as if the Lord God, Jehovah, Yahweh is watching closely…. because He IS!
In the text before us God is about to bring down the hammer of judgment on Israel for their ungodliness.  And strangely enough God is going to use Israel’s enemy, Assyria, a pagan nation, to swing that hammer.  If you read between the lines of this political mess you can see that conquering Israel will only mean harsher punishment in the long run for Assyria, while Israel’s punishment for deserting Yahweh, and acting like a pagan nation, will only be for a short time.  Assyria, on the other hand, will be destroyed utterly.  There’s a message in that for America…and for all the world’s leaders!
Of course, Isaiah was a prophet who, like Billy Graham, Rick Warren, and Jesse Jackson, had access to the king’s ear…the seat of power.  And so, God’s warnings through Isaiah toward Israel and Assyria were widely published.  But none of the powers that be listened to a word.  Isaiah was put aside like the preachers of Christian faith these days. 
It’s said that power corrupts, and absolute power, such as held by the king of Assyria, corrupts absolutely.  Had Isaiah’s words been full of victory, praise, and prosperity for the kings, he would have been lauded as the nation’s hero.  But Isaiah gave a stern warning of judgment because of the nation’s sin, and they threw him in jail.  Eventually they killed him by sawing him in two pieces!  So much for respecting the clergy!
Dateline:  America c.2018
As we approach the 242nd anniversary of this nation’s independence there are some parallels and lessons we can draw from Isaiah’s prophecy about Assyria and Israel.  There’s enough political wrangling in this story to choke anybody’s horse!
In Isaiah’s Israel the hot button issues were unfair judges making laws to line their pockets.  They ignored the poor, favoring their rich friends, building palaces, extravagant lifestyles and reputations, while the widows and orphans went hungry. 
With the King of Assyria, all that interested him was conquest; he was going to plunder whatever other nations had; he was going to make his mark in history.  If Israel resisted, so much the better; he then had reason to make their blood flow like a river. 
Some things never change.
In 2018 we have our controversial hot button issues too:  abortion, homosexuality in the culture and church, and, today, the issue du jour:  our border, who gets to cross it, and whether to separate children from the parents, or just charge entire families as criminals. 
The debate over such things is endless, bitter, and entirely lacking in civility.  Mostly all the arguing and bickering over these things accomplishes nothing. 
There are more than a few “sides” on each issue; it’s not just the conservatives and liberals, Democrats or Republicans.  In fact, considering we are talking about Washington D.C., there are as many sides as there are politicians.  That’s because, in the halls of any government, there are as many different agendas – mostly hidden – as there are Senators, Congresspersons, and Administration officials, elected or appointed.
So, whichever “side” you see this from, remember that all sides these days seem to be claiming that the other side is the one making unfair laws concerning whatever they’re disputing.
In much the same tone, and with the same thought process where people claim victim status these days, where everything is always someone else’s fault, we have a political climate (and therefore, a cultural dilemma) in which there is plenty of blaming going on, but precious little accepting of responsibility.  It’s a stalemate to righteousness.
In that atmosphere it is the people who wind-up choking on the bitter pill of empty promises.  We are, in the words of James, the half-brother of Jesus, governed by empty rain clouds that proclaim the rains are coming, but somehow never seem to get here.  James got that one from Solomon:
A person who promises a gift but doesn’t give it is like clouds and wind that bring no rain.  Proverbs 25:14(NLT)
A Christian MUST be better than that!  We are not arrogantly above others, but we must be above acting and thinking like the world…otherwise we deny Christ and make the cross a joke.
And so, to the point of being better than that; because there is both good and evil at work in all human activity…and because we are not God, knowing all things, there are some cautions from God’s Word we need to hear and heed about how we are to conduct ourselves in the world. 
These cautions – warnings, really – are what help us approach any debate on our current hot button controversies, or any other issue that affects us in our family, on the job, at school, or in the stores, or at ball games, or even in church. 
Here are four such CALLS TO EXHIBIT CARE in our words before we open our mouths:
1. Be respectful to everybody
If you claim to be a child of God, brother to Jesus, there is never a time when it is alright to denigrate the person or reputation of another human being.  We are, every one of us, created with the image of God stamped on our souls.  And, truth be told, we all sin that image away.  That’s why grace is required – God’s forgiveness is not extended without the cross, and none of us deserved what Jesus offered, written in His own blood.
That being said, every time you trash someone else’s reputation, either behind their back in gossip, or in-person with an in-your-face belligerence, you assault the image of God.  I have an older brother, Thom, with whom I have had disagreements – mostly when we were kids, over who gets the bigger piece of apple pie – but he is my brother.  The two of us also have a bigger Brother, named Jesus.  If I attack my brother, Thom, the line is blurry about where the attack on him ends, and the attack on Jesus begins.
Last week at Annual Conference I heard a speaker refer to our President as a dictator.  That was disrespectful, and an horrific display of what has become commonplace in our culture.  I do not agree with some of the things our President does, nor do I like the example his demeanor represents, but we must not let the atmosphere of our communication destroy any hope of fellowship.
And, by the way, that disrespect is learned VERY early in life.  Children who are allowed to run rough-shod over their parents, peers, teachers, or anyone else, either in authority, or not, are being taught by their parents that the image of God in anyone else doesn’t count.  They’re being taught to get their own way, be the center of attention, and win at all cost.  In short, they’re being taught to live like Lucifer, instead of communing like the Christ!  Respect is a hallmark of Christian character!
2. Don’t agree with those who demonize others
This warning is very much tied to respect.  It doesn’t take much to agree with those who want to blame and demonize other people (make them the villain, or the sole cause for what’s wrong).  All it takes is not speaking up in defense.  The Latin phrase is: quī tacet cōnsentīre vidētur (he who is silent is understood to consent).  If you don’t speak your objection you are complicit in someone else’s character attack on another.
Rather, then, speak-up; even when you’re afraid of the consequences, or embarrassed that you haven’t got eloquence on your side.  Speak up anyway! 
The only caution we ought to have about defending the weaker, or defending what’s right is to make certain we do it in the right spirit.  Doing the right thing with a caustic, angry spirit is harmful in the long run.  But keeping the right spirit, kind, loving, humble, and helpful, even if you make a wrong guess, or use insufficient words leaves room for God’s Spirit to work; it leaves the door open for reconciliation and progress in the Kingdom.
3. Don’t be boastful
Do you recall what Isaiah said about the King of Assyria?  The King boasted he was invincible; and here’s what God said about that:
But the king of Assyria will not understand that he is my tool; his mind does not work that way.  His plan is simply to destroy, to cut down nation after nation.  He will say, ‘Each of my princes will soon be a king.  We destroyed Calno just as we did Carchemish.  Hamath fell before us as Arpad did.  And we destroyed Samaria just as we did Damascus.  Yes, we have finished off many a kingdom whose gods were greater than those in Jerusalem and Samaria.  So we will defeat Jerusalem and her gods, just as we destroyed Samaria with hers.’” 
After the Lord has used the king of Assyria to accomplish his purposes on Mount Zion and in Jerusalem, he will turn against the king of Assyria and punish him—for he is proud and arrogant.  He boasts, “By my own powerful arm I have done this.  With my own shrewd wisdom I planned it.  I have broken down the defenses of nations and carried off their treasures. I have knocked down their kings like a bull.  I have robbed their nests of riches and gathered up kingdoms as a farmer gathers eggs.  No one can even flap a wing against me or utter a peep of protest.”  But can the ax boast greater power than the person who uses it?  Is the saw greater than the person who saws?  Can a rod strike unless a hand moves it?  Can a wooden cane walk by itself?  Therefore, the Lord, the Lord of Heaven’s Armies, will send a plague among Assyria’s proud troops, and a flaming fire will consume its glory.  The Lord, the Light of Israel, will be a fire; the Holy One will be a flame.  He will devour the thorns and briers with fire, burning up the enemy in a single night.  The Lord will consume Assyria’s glory like a fire consumes a forest in a fruitful land; it will waste away like sick people in a plague.  Isaiah 10:7-19 (NLT)
In the New Testament, Paul the apostle picked up on what the Psalmist had to say about boasting:
“If you want to boast, boast only about the Lord.”      1 Corinthians 1:31(NLT)
And then a last call to be careful about our words:
4. Be ready to Hear twice and Speak once
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters:  You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.  James 1:19(NLT)
This one is clear; God gave us all only one mouth and two ears.  The progression concerning our physical bodies ought to be a constant reminder about what God expects from His family. We are given one mouth and two ears, so our speaking should be smaller than our hearing.  Listen well before you speak.
We are given two hands and two feet; after listening well, we are to put hands and feet into action to do what God calls us to do.  So, that’s the progression; we have one mouth, two ears, four limbs.  Listen much, speak little, do help…lots!
God expects us to be faithful in attempting to influence the world and its culture for good and godliness. 
That’s what Jesus meant when he told his disciples to occupy until [I] return.   It was not the kind of “Occupy” movement of angry protest we see today.  Rather it is with the heart of Christ we embody the role of servants to all; we occupy the place of meeting the needs of the least, the last, and the lost.
And if we ever hope to be faithful towards that end, we must press on with the example of civility, kindness, charity, and the compassion of God’s Holy Spirit.
It is time for us to repent of our name calling, demonizing, blaming, boasting, and running off at the mouth every time a thought crosses our brains.  These are the kinds of things that destroy communion in the body of Christ and sour the world on the church.
It is better to be silent like Jesus before his accusers and be thought a fool, than to be constantly opening our mouths in worldly debates and prove it beyond all doubt.
Let the church say “Amen”!

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